| Domestic Violence Steals Your Life!
It takes everything you ever thought you were,
ever hoped you'd be,
and rips at it...until there's nothing left!
It changes who you are. It breaks your heart and damages your soul...
It leaves you with nothing but more of the same!
So why do you stay?
Why do you tolerate it?
Why do you make excuses?
Why do you believe his lies?
Because that's what someone has taught you to do---
somewhere along the line, you got broken!
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But know this, it always boils down to only ONE thing...
If you're an adult who lives with an abuser,
you have to stop listening to your own lies.
You have to stop telling yourself that:
- It was your fault
- Or that if he didn't love you so much he wouldn't abuse you.
- Or that it'll get better....that he'll change.
He might change...but he won't get better. You Have to Really HEAR that...
Because you're risking your life, and if you have children...their lives, every minute you stay.
But I know that you already know that...you just keep talking yourself out of it. And I also know why you stay...
Many years ago, I stayed too.
And now...as I've just finished writing my book about Abuse and Abusers,
I knew that I had to devote an entire section to you...the Battered Women, the Victims,
the people who deserve more. Because even though you're grown...somewhere inside of you lives a person who has given up on themselves and their futures.
A person who's convinced themselves that this is the best life has to offer them.
But I know better....because I've come out the other side of abuse...and I know just how much you're missing out on...and I KNOW, you're stronger than this!
So in this book, I share with you the reasons why I stayed...because I'm willing to bet, they are also some of the reasons why you stay.
And, I've also included several exercises all throughout this book which will help you look at your life differently; perhaps release some of those lies someone told you so long ago.
The lies that keep you there.
Plus...I've even included an exercise that will help you to finally see your abuser for who they really are....and sometimes, that's all it takes to make you leave. It's like having the missing piece of a very strange puzzle. Once you can see it clearly and fit it all together, you can suddenly see the larger picture, and abuse seems to just release itself from your life, and then you can go...easily. I know you might be afraid, and I know there might be ramifications for your leaving...
But I also know that quite often you stay for very different reasons than just fear...and those reasons are ones I'll also expose you to in this book.
I don't pull any punches here...because I've lived it, I've left it, and I know how desperately you need to heal this part of you too.
So if you know that's it time that you:
What I share with you through it is part common sense and part not-so-common sense. Because some of my healing came from areas of my life that were anything but common. But whatever it took to heal my pain and my children's pain is what I was willing to consider.
However, everything I share with you is easy to do and extremely powerful. And it all boils down to this:
We simply have to combine your mind and how you think, with your body and how you feel, with your spirit and what you already know to be the truth...
In order to heal your life and help you make the best choices possible.
It's not magic...but it might feel like it!
Plus, I not only address the Victims of Domestic Violence in this book, I also address the victims of child abuse, along with the actual abusers themselves. Because any book on Abuse has to address all three. Quite often abuse happens in a cycle, so we must look at the entire picture if we are to ever really understand our damage. _________________________
Therefore,
If you are a spouse who abuses your loved ones...
There is a section of this book devoted entirely to you.
Because I know that if you don't stop hurting the people who love you...
Abuse will never stop...and that's just not acceptable.
So in this book we will discuss the different types of abuse and how abuse isn't always just physically hitting someone...abuse can be verbal insults, angry words, and emotional withholds.
It can also be:
- You demanding that your loved ones account to you for every moment they are apart from you...and flying off in a jealous rage when you know as well as I do that nothing happened.
- It can be you just not loving your spouse enough to quit hurting them when they've upset you.
- It can be you manipulating them by comparing them to others and constantly pointing out where they are lacking in skill, intelligence, appearance, or anything really.
- Or it can be you calling them names, pushing them, grabbing them, or shaking your fists in their face...for no really good reason at all...other than you just felt like it.
It can be anything that you do that hurts them,
just because you can.
Your loved ones are people too....spouse, children, makes no difference, because they all have hearts that open to you much wider than anyone else's would. And they have ears that listen much more closely to what you say than anyone else ever would.
They care about what you think about them and they care whether you love them or not. They have feelings, needs, opinions and personalities that deserve to be honored, every bit as much as yours.
And you just need to acknowledge that, and understand how selfish you are being for not taking them and their feelings into account before you erupt and say things to them, or do things to them that you can never take back....Never!
So in this book, Abusers get the first third of it.
Because I believe that if we don't understand abuse from an abusers viewpoint,
it just continues.
I want to help you change as much as I want to help your loved ones leave.
So I will share some of the reasons for why you do it. I will tell you what it is that you're really doing, along with explaining what it is that you're really setting yourself up for.
And...I will also tell you how you can change it all!
I'll give you exercises, insights and alternative ways to work with your loved ones in a healthy manner that is neither damaging to you or them.
Because when you hurt someone, it hurts you too...don't kid yourself.
Somewhere inside of you, you know that.
And, I will also ask you to please consider that if you abuse your spouse and you aren't willing to stop...then let them go...they don't deserve your anger...they didn't cause your pain...it comes from somewhere else. Don't make them pay for what someone else did to you!
Let me help you understand and heal the part of you
that causes you to hurt the people who love you.
And yes, I do have a very unique view on many things. But I'm unique...yet I'm also very experienced in the topic of abuse. I get it...and I know some things that you probably don't...so let me help you help yourself.
If it's time that you:
- Learn how to love someone without fearing they'll leave.
- Learn how to love someone without having to control their every thought and their every move.
- And begin to contribute to society and your family in a positive way.
- Time to stop hurting the people you love, who also love you by the way.
- And become the person you'd really like to be instead of the person you are.
- To live a happy, satisfied, and quiet life.
- And know that you're doing the very best you are capable of doing at any given moment.
PLEASE...Read this book.
It really is that simple....all it requires is for you to try.
People are dying every day...
people are being beaten to death by people who are supposed to love them... And I promise you...these people never thought it would go that far either!
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