| Domestic Violence Robs You
of Your Life!
It takes everything you ever thought you were, ever hoped you'd be, and rips it apart...until there's nothing left!
It changes who you are. It damages your soul and breaks your heart...
It leaves you with nothing but more of the same!
So why do you stay?
Why do you tolerate it?
Why do you make excuses?
Why do you believe his lies?
Because that's what someone has taught you to do---
somewhere along the line, you got broken!
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But know this, it all boils down to ONE thing...
If you're an adult who lives with an abuser,
you have to stop listening to your own lies.
You have to stop telling yourself that:
- It was your fault
- Or that if he didn't love you so much he wouldn't abuse you.
- Or that it'll get better....that he'll change.
He might change...but he won't get better. You Have to Really HEAR that...
Because you're risking your life, and perhaps even the lives of your children, every minute that you stay.
But I know that you know that already...you just keep talking yourself out of it. Yet, I also understand why you stay...
Many years ago, I stayed too.
And now...as I've just finished writing my book about Abuse and Abusers,
I knew that I had to devote an entire section to you...the Battered Women, the Victims,
the people who deserve more. Because even though you're grown...somewhere inside of you lives a person who has given up on themselves and their futures. A person who's convinced themselves that this is the best life has to offer them. But I know better....because I've come out the other side of abuse...and I know there's just so much you're missing out on...and I KNOW, you're stronger than this!
So in this book, I share with you the reasons why I stayed...because I'm willing to bet, they are also some of the reasons why you stay.
And, I've included several exercises all throughout this book which will help you look at your life differently and release some of those lies someone told you so long ago.
The lies that keep you there.
Plus...I've even included an exercise that will help you to finally see your abuser for who they really are....and sometimes, that's all it takes to make you leave. It's like having the missing piece of a very strange puzzle. Once you can see it clearly and fit all the pieces together and look at the larger picture, abuse seems to just release from your life and you can go...easily. I know you might be afraid, and I know there might be ramifications for your leaving...
But I also know that quite often you stay for very different reasons than just fear, and those I'll also expose to you in this book.
I don't pull any punches here...because I've lived it, I've left it, and I know how desperately you need to heal this part of you too...before it's too late.
So if you know that's it time that you:
What I share with you in this book is part common sense and a part not-so-common sense. Because some of my healing came from areas of my life that were anything but common. But whatever it took to heal my pain and my children's pain is what I was willing to consider.
However, what I share is easy to do and extremely powerful. And it simply boils down to this:
We simply have to combine your mind and how you think, with your body and how you feel, with your spirit and what you already know to be the truth...
In order to heal your life and help you make the best choices possible.
It's not magic...but it might feel like it!
And, as I said, I address you, the victims of child abuse and the abusers themselves in this book...because any book on Abuse has to address all three. Quite often abuse happens in a cycle, so we must look at the entire picture if we are to ever really understand our damage. _________________________
Therefore,
If you're a spouse who abuses your loved ones...
There is a section of this book devoted entirely to you.
Because I know that if you don't stop hurting people who love you...
Abuse will never stop...and that's just not acceptable.
In this book we will discuss the different types of abuse and how abuse isn't always just physically hitting someone...abuse can be verbal insults, angry words, and emotional withholds.
It can be:
- It can be you demanding they account to you for every moment they are apart from you...and flying off in a jealous rage when you know as well as I do, nothing happened.
- You just not loving your spouse enough not to hurt them when they've upset you.
- It can be you manipulating them by comparing them to others and constantly pointing out where they are lacking in skill, intelligence, appearance, or something else.
- Or it can be you calling them names, pushing them, grabbing them, or shaking your fists in their face...for no really good reason at all...other than you just felt like it.
It can be anything that you do that hurts them,
just because you can.
Your loved ones are people too....spouse, children, makes no difference, because they all have hearts that open to you much wider than anyone else's would. And they have ears that listen much more closely to what you say than anyone else ever would.
They care about what you think about them and if you love them. They have feelings, needs, opinions and personalities that deserve to be honored, every bit as much as yours. And you just need to acknowledge that and understand how selfish you are being for not taking them and their feelings into account before you erupted and said things to them, or did things to them that you can never take back....Never!
So in this book, Abusers get the first third of it.
Because I believe that if we don't understand abuse from an abusers viewpoint,
the abuse just continues.
I want to help you change as much as I want to help your loved ones leave.
I will share some of the reasons for why you do it. I will tell you what it is that you're really doing, along with explaining what it is that you're really setting yourself up for.
And...I will tell you how you can change it all!
I'll give you exercises, insights and alternative ways to work with your loved ones in a healthy manner that is neither damaging to you or them.
Because when you hurt someone, it hurts you too...don't kid yourself.
Somewhere inside of you, you know that.
And, I will also ask you to please consider that if you abuse your spouse and you aren't willing to stop...let them go...they don't deserve your anger...they didn't cause it...it came from somewhere else. Don't make them pay for what someone else did to you!
Let me help you understand and heal the part of you
that causes you to hurt the people who love you.
And yes, I do have a very unique view of abuse and how to heal it. But I'm unique...yet I'm also very experienced in the topic of abuse. I get it...and I know some things that you probably don't...so let me help you help yourself.
I know that I can offer you several different ideas that you've probably never thought of before...but that will work for you if you'll let them.
So, if it's time that: - Learn how to love someone without fearing they'll leave.
- Learn how to love someone without having to control their every thought and their every move.
- And begin to contribute to society and your family in a positive way.
- Stop hurting the people you love, who also love you by the way.
- And become the person you'd really like to be instead of the person you are.
- And live a happy, satisfied, and quiet life.
- And know that you're doing the very best you are capable of doing at any given moment.
PLEASE...Read this book.
It really is that simple....all it requires is for you to try something different.
People are dying every day...
people are being beaten to death by people who are supposed to love them... And these people never thought it would go that far either!
Abuse has to become a priority to us all.
We can change everything...we can stop it!
Let's heal our lives and stop the abuse before it's too late
or
we waste an opportunity to live a really great life!
Why not try something new? Why not try something?
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